Baby Wise: Parent-led Schedules

Ezzo, Gary, and Bucknam, R. “On Becoming Baby Wise”. Mount Pleasant, SC: Parent-Wise Solutions, 2012

Gary Ezzo is a lucky man.

“On Becoming Baby Wise”, as of this writing, ranks #1 for sleep disorders in Amazon Books. This fact speaks volumes for the message, especially in light of the fact that the messenger, Mr. Ezzo, has been the recipient of some withering criticism for his parenting advice, but especially for his religious beliefs. Some of that criticism, sadly, comes from Ezzo’s own church, or I should say former church. Despite all this, the Ezzo collection has grown to nine volumes. That’s impressive.

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When I read “Baby Wise” for the first time, I detected no hint of any religious world-view whatsoever. I did not know of the controversy surrounding Mr. Ezzo and I’m glad I didn’t. I appreciate that the first edition of the book expressed this world-view explicitly. Not so with subsequent versions.

My ignorance allowed me to judge the “Baby Wise” message without regard to the messenger. This is as it should be. Here’s what I took away from it:

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The lesson I took away was the commonsense observation that a baby who has just finished a good feeding is probably not hungry. If one hour later, the baby starts fussing and crying, many experienced parents understand that what is bothering the baby cannot be hunger. Because the baby just ate! “Baby Wise” suggests that parents first seek to find what’s bothering the baby before reflexively feeding her.

This is what happens in the real world. What mother has not looked into the bassinet at her crying baby (whom she finished nursing 30 minutes ago) and thought, “You can’t be hungry, I just fed you!” Mom then proceeds to see if the baby had gas, or needed a diaper change.

Another Fact of Life

“Baby Wise” recognizes a fact of life about babies: they are not born knowing how to get along in this world. They are equipped with certain biological set-points, but becoming a person requires nurture as well as nature. Most parents understand this implicitly.

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Ezzo suggests that babies need to be nudged, gently, in the direction of sleeping when it’s time to sleep and eating when it’s time to eat. This may involve staying with the baby for a few minutes to stroke her back, to sing to her, or to give her a fingertip to suck on. I believe that even parents dedicated to attachment methods recognize this truth. I believe “attachment parents” do a fair bit of nudging themselves, though they might not care to acknowledge it!

Baby Wise Claims the High Middle Ground

It has become fashionable in the Baby Sleep World to claim that one’s own method is “centrist” or a “combination method“, and that all the others are either “baby-led” or “parent-led” extremists. Everyone clamors for the exalted, er, middle ground. Ezzo is no exception.

[Parent-directed feeding] is the center point between hyper-scheduling and the re-attachment theories. It has enough structure to bring security and order to a baby’s world, yet enough flexibility to give Mom the freedom to respond to any need at any time. It is a proactive style of parenting that helps foster healthy growth and optimal development. For example, a baby cannot maximize learning without experiencing optimal alertness, and he can only experience optimal alertness with optimal sleep. Optimal sleep is tied to good naps and established nighttime sleep. These advanced levels of sleep are the end result of consistent feedings. Consistent feedings come from establishing a healthy routine.

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Who’s the director?

Ezzo then goes on to mis-characterize the so-called “baby-led schedule” and “attachment theories” and exhumes the body of Luther Emmett Holt’s clock-feeding schedule.

I wish Ezzo and others were lumpers instead of splitters. We are all “combination schedulers” now. This is where the “debate” has led us.

Off the Rails

Where Ezzo over-promises and under-delivers comes with his discussion of sleeping through the night.

In fact, healthy, full-term babies are born with the capacity to achieve 7-8 hours of continuous nighttime sleep between seven and ten weeks of age and 10 to 12 hours of sleep by twelve weeks of age. But these achievements require parental guidance and a basic understanding of how a baby’s routine impacts healthy outcomes.

I’m not sure where Ezzo gets these optimistic numbers from, but they do not square with observed data, as in this study:

Continuous night-time sleep for at least 6 hours was noted in 35% of the infants under 3 months old and the proportion increased to 72% by the age of 9–12 months. The youngest infants were fed on average 6–7 times per day at 2- to 3-hour intervals in the daytime and at 4- to 6-hour intervals at night.

Ezzo also nods with his misunderstanding of circadian rhythm. “Babies do not have the ability to organize their own days and nights into predictable rhythms, but they have the biological need to do so.” In fact, babies do have the ability to organize day and night, if they are permitted allow synchronize their sleep-wake cycle with the cycle of day and night. This requires no effort on the parents’ part at all. Just allow daytime to be light and nighttime to be dark. You don’t need to train the sun.

I’m not sure what Ezzo means by a “biological need” to organize day and night. There’s a need to sleep, and it’s probably the case that we do better when we sleep long periods at night. Is this what Ezzo means? Perhaps.

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Back on Track

The remainder of the book gives solid common-sense advice about the hazards of overstimulation and bad sleep associations (though Ezzo refers to the latter as “props”, confusing cause and effect). The chapters on crying, feeding, baby care and troubleshooting are all pretty standard fare.

In short, the similarities between Baby Wise and other baby sleep books are greater than the differences. The latter are cosmetic, the exceptions having been noted.

Summary

  • Ezzo may be a religious man, but “Baby Wise” is not a religious book
  • Apart from some unrealistic expectation management regarding uninterrupted sleep at night, the advice is solid.

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Rob Lindeman

Rob Lindeman is a sleep coach, entrepreneur, and writer living in Massachusetts. Ready to Get Rid of the Pacifier? Sign up for our FREE Video eCourse: The Paci-Free Method http://bit.ly/1U8Tdzx

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